First of all, I KNOW that the original motion behind this expression was a good one, which was supposed to make society accept men who don’t have time, possibility, or willingness to perform exercises every day, and own a NORMAL body shape. BUT as the – let’s say - social campaign, moved so far from this, I now have some negative thoughts too.
My first problem is absolutely the name… Dadbod.
I don’t know for sure why, but I think this pejorative. I’m not a man, don’t have serious problems with my body, but I feel some bitter taste in my mouth when I hear this word.
Let’s imagine someone who is a father, has two or more children, work every day devoted to his family, spend enough time with their kids and doesn’t have time for going on a run more than once a week, or more than once a month. I don’t think that this is an unusual situation. So in this case: would you be happy to be identified as having a “DadBod,” like as if it’s a shame that you spend your days providing a life for your family? No. It won’t be a pleasure.
Let’s check another situation: You are Leonardo DiCaprio. You have proven for many times that you use your body as a device to express what the role demands from you. Now, when you’re on holiday and don’t care about anything as long as you’re having rest and fun, you are labelled as having a DadBod. I think the real Leonardo DiCaprio absolutely doesn’t care for this at all, but I’d be very indignant if I were him.
I don’t really know how to explain well, but this word – however it was brought to life for a positive reason – brings very negative background feelings for me.
My second problem is the wide – really wide - borders of this expression.
In the very first weeks, it meant a normal body, not over gym-ed, but toned, and not very overweight. Now, it means any kind of body other than “I’m-in-the-gym-every-day” body.
To be honest, both are unacceptable for me: I don’t think that our body is the most important thing in life as it’s a trendy accessory, but that it supports us and we need to support it as best as we can, to be healthy, and not to be a model shaped man/woman. The principle is to be healthy not to be sexy. It’s another question whether or not if you are healthy, your body is well-toned. It’s a secondary benefit of being healthy.
So back to the two ends: if you type “Dadbod” and search for pictures you’ll get everything you can imagine: from normal to absolutely unhealthy and overweight.
And the third: it was expected - MomBod.
Being a mother is one of the biggest things in life, if not the biggest. We all want to be women and get our pre-pregnancy body back after giving birth, but if it’s not happening now, it will happen when our kids don’t want to play with us anymore after kindergarten or school. Trust me, the time will come when they don’t want to play with us and would rather go out with friends. THEN you will have time for sure to take care of your body. If you are healthy, and have a normal body, you are not supposed to feel bad.
We are not similar, neither mentally or physically. This is why society is working.
I absolutely don’t understand why ‘normal’ needs a social campaign in this century to be accepted and appreciated.
Why are extremes more acceptable and become trendy in hours while people who only want to be normal with normal values - and in this case: normal body - need a campaign to be noticed and accepted?
And I’m begging to people, with normal body, not DadBod or MomBod: Why do you feel like you need to prove that you are normal?
Please don’t care about trends, don’t care about celebrities, don’t care about anything but your own health, body, and spiritual unity.