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Social Aspects of Electronics

Blessing or Damage?

Social Aspects of Electronics

TV, Computer, Internet, and Mobile phones are an addition to our lives to make it easier. At least this should be the first reason for you to use them. Is this the case?

Where is the society leading?

Radical parents forget that we can no longer go back to the Stone Age. The computers, smartphones, internet, are basic necessities of our communication. They're the main tools of our daily life and they can be more and more useful. They can bring blessing or damages.
We talk so much about the damages. When I open FB, I can be sure to get 1 post a week about addiction, its side effects, and damages. And all those posts are right.

But we cannot change the fact that the electronics are here. We use them, we overuse them, we can become addicted to them. It will take time until we can build up a society where they will serve us instead of killing us. Yes, we know that today, the number of those who spend unnecessarily to much hours in front of computer is increasing, and yes, it makes them addictive. And it will further cause behavior disorders and brain lesions to appear. Especially causing problems to the new generation. These are facts. But we can’t discard technology.

We need to find a way to put them to the right place in our life. And for that, we firstly need to know where we actually need them.

21st century onwards

The new information channel

The Internet and mobile technologies have greatly facilitated our life. The new generation is using internet to get the information in the fastest way; no longer by reading, but by watching videos, animations, and infographics. And this is just the beginning. The way how sci-fi movies show people capturing information virtually like the Xbox Kinect, will happen very soon. Is our brain able to follow with this new way of capturing information. It will be an important issue.

Virtual communication

The communication has moved to the social networks, emails, Skype calls, and the like. Close family members are breaking the distance through Skype calls. My family is a good example, where my husband and I are often separated. My daughter listens to her bedtime story through Skype. Is that strengthening the relationship? Does this cause any side effect on the child when parents start to move out from the neighborhood and relationships can be maintained 1000 miles away. Good question to see and handle.

Social media allow us to keep friendships distantly. I love that I could have the daily news about my nephews in Brasil, or to be informed if my friend needs a quick help on something. Also it allows us to succeed in life easily. We can find the right contact for a new job or we can cancel a new opportunity if the person at the other end is not likeable. But are those real relationships? Can we touch it, or do we really need to touch it?

Gaming

We can see the world without actually going anywhere. We can actually become a hero without actually doing anything. We can become whatever we want, virtually. Now, that scares me. Gaming is the side effect of the new technologies. I personally never use my gadgets for gaming. Never ever. But we give those toys already at age of 2 to our toddlers, so that they would not disturb us. Is there a positive side to gaming? I need to say yes. Educational games can emphasize brain development and many skills. But what are good or bad games?

Channels

Youtube, online TVs, and online music channels. I have to say, I love them. Deciding when I watch what. When I listen to what. But again, it also gives the opportunity to watch useless movies and TV shows all day.

Digital dependence can have serious consequences. Addicts often neglect everything - their health, their families, and friends - and when they can't get enough time in the digital environment, they show real physical withdrawal symptoms. They become restless, shaking hands, and sleep disturbances, and are struggling and become extremely sweaty.

The world cannot be stopped. The new technology is here. The question is to face the consequences. Find the right way of using technology and help people to use it right. Find alternatives for them.

Summarizing a bit, and let me give you some tips, how to help yourself, your husband, or your child to avoid side effects:

New efficient communicational tool

We can lose personal contact, which causes underdeveloped social skills

Be sure to have real friends and spend time with them every week. Bring your child to after-school activities where he can face other kids.

Social media

Dependent on your FB or other pages. You need to check it daily. It creates isolation and a world of illusions.

Force yourself to only check it once or twice a week. Switch off notifications. Talk a lot with your child about his school friends. Be sure that he participates on programs in group. Check his social media friends.

Gaming

Real addiction. Could cause serious damages.

Step by step limit the gaming. Change gaming to real board games and family activities. If your child spend to much time with games, increase the after-school activities.

Online media watching

Real addiction. Could cause serious damages.

Go to the theater or read. If your kids doesn’t like to read, find a book together and read it together. There are good and amazing books for every generation. Worst case, take the book version of a movie.

Collecting information from Internet instead of from real manuals or books

Too much information could cause brain damages, fatigue, and stress.

Generally, we could be blessed that we can reach the right information quickly. The importance is not to lose ourselves in the forest. When we start to surf on the net, we tend to spend more time than needed. Try to focus and teach your child how to search.

What more can we do?

Our kids are growing up in a different environment, they were born in a computerized world, they need to know how does it work, how to use them to learn, to get information, to play with it properly, and that is the useful part…. But how long or how often? Where do you draw the line between healthy and not healthy?

  • Limit the time to a maximum of one hour / day
  • Look for educational games
  • Check what they do and what they play
  • Sit down and explain them how serious addiction is
  • Be a good example

What kind of examples can we give to them?

Children are learning from examples…. Parents are the first examples, family is the first in line to pick up behaviors. So first of all, let's see how mommy and daddy are dealing with this Internet, computer, TV, and mobile topic. If you or your husband are addicted to the internet, then don’t be surprised if your kid is doing the same thing. He/she is only following your attitude, just like in many other things. Examine your home conditions first.

The serious side Effects of the new social and communicational tools

Children and young people these days are picking up, more spontaneously and uncritically, all the information compared to 15 years ago. All experts agree that they are very good at processing all the visual information. And what they know less and less is paying attention to others, engaging in conversation, or immersing in a book.

The computer maniac children, especially boys, often have a problem with the traditional personal communication, which is no longer considered to be effective.

They avoid eye contact, because their brain is unable to process the speaker’s facial expressions and gestures. This causes stress, so soon they will avoid this type of communication and they'll only have the internet; where they will not face disappointment, unpredicted reactions, and embarrassing situations; where they can lead and stop communication whenever and however they want. Thus, the circle closes.

This topic is very sensible for both adults and kids. Because of the gift of the Internet, mobile phones can easily turn you to the other side and make a lot of damage. And who wants kids who are living in a virtual world, has no connection to humans, and has separated themselves from this beautiful world.

Life is about personal relationships, where internet is just a tool to facilitate them.
An exciting chat on the social media is not a real discussion; it's not face-to-face. What we could write on a forum is not necessarily the same with what we would say face-to-face. Who we are is not what we show or it is rarely the same with what we show over the net. But life is about personal relationship.

It is about learning to love, respect, and care for others. We can only do that by standing next to each other; touching each other. Virtual contact should be like the phone, helping to establish the communication and facilitate the meeting; or support in bringing the information but let the experience be real.

That is what we need to make our children understand. Technology is our tool, like a fridge, or our washing machine.

Our tablet is not our best friend which we bring with us even to the toilet to continue to talk to our schoolfriends on social media. Would you take them to shit with you 100 years ago? Imagine if the tech would be so developed that they would even be capable of smelling?

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