How do we manage our crying baby? It is very important to note that we are talking about a baby, I mean less than one year old. Because under one year, we can discuss crying but we not hysterical crying.
Babies are not able to talk so they cry if they want something, if something is wrong, if they feel a pain, or if they do not want to be alone. They cry. Crying is their key to survive, the only sign they can give to call our attention if some of their needs are not fulfilled. But those who have a child know that babies can cry without a reason, many times so inconsolably, especially in the beginning.
In the first few months,
the baby’s nervous system is very immature and their behavior is controlled by their subsistence reflexes. That is the reason why the parents find the baby's behavior so unpredictable sometimes. And that does not mean we don’t know our baby well enough.
That is okay, but what do you do when you tried everything and your baby is still crying, even when you try to put him down on his baby bed?
Well, there is a method where we simply leave our baby crying, and after a while, he will just learn to stop crying. And this one can work but not with a baby under one year old!!! At that age, they only want to feel a heartbeat or a warm skin or something from the human body. They just try to tell the world that they are not fine. Then they might get tired and fall asleep, and we might think that we have reached our goal, but the fact is, our baby only gets tired mentally and stops crying, but we did not help at all.
Maybe our baby is not hungry or tired, but just want our closeness. Therefore, in the first period, we cannot take it as a conscious behavior, and if we give them physical security, we are far from spoiling them. Also, if we pick them up and hold them but they still keep crying, it shows that it's far from voluntary behavior, and in this situation, it's not good to leave the baby crying alone.
But just like everything about babies, kids and teens reflect their tempers, their personality, with their mother's temper and personality. If somebody is getting angry when the baby cries, that is a bad sign to the baby, and he will cry more because he will feel every mood and stress.
The most important tips are:
- Stay calm
- Check all the possible causes – pain, hunger, thirst, tiredness, temperature, and noise
- If you sang when you were pregnant, do that and the baby will calm down. If you did not sing during pregnancy, they still might love it. When you sing, there is no fear in the baby's brain
- Talk – tell a story about anything
- Put a little Mozart on
- Pamper them, make them secure that your are there for them, relax them
- Find a toy, a little thing that can grab their attention even if the toy is singing or making any kind of noise; not scary but something they like
- Sit in a rocking chair
As they grow, their behavior becomes more aware. Intention will appear as a behavior control factor.
This is the time when we can talk about hysterical crying, and that is the point when we should not jump on the first noise. But after one year, we can distinguish hysterical crying and normal crying
So, don’t leave your baby alone in those early days.